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Using yourself as your own source of love and happiness makes it much healthier with other people too for sure. Evenstar8 Are you certain you want something casual from these dates or would you feel more comfortable with a partner? I am a bi woman and have had people message me saying they are new to the community and want kind of a safe fwb to explore with, which I was open hookup.
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